If you’re reading this article, chances are you’ve had more misses than hits with your personal relationships in the past. You may ask yourself, out of the 3.5 billion men out there, why haven’t you met a single great man yet? The following pointers may tip the odds back in your favor.
Know, understand and accept yourself
One of the hardest things one can possibly do is to genuinely accept oneself entirely, both the good and the bad. However, situations will arise that elicit certain realizations about our character and beliefs. Once enlightenment occurs, you must work to resolve your issues, acknowledge your inadequacies, discard your psychological crutches, and eventually learn to lov
e and respect yourself no matter what.
Once you have achieved this, you will be able to face the world with confidence and optimism that is plain for everyone to see, and this can be an especially attractive quality.
Deal with Longstanding Issues
Living in the real world means dealing with issues from mildly irritating to seriously crippling, that may have a significant impact on how we handle relationships. For example, a woman who has been abused by a person she trusted will find it difficult to trust again. Consequently, the lack of trust will take its toll on a relationship. If she cannot face the past and deal with the issue, she is basically dooming all her relationships to the same fate. This is easier said than done, but no one says you have to do it alone. Get support from family, friends, even professional help if you have to. Only after you have dealt with the past can you get on with your life.
Look in the Right Places
If you want to buy your favorite designer perfume, where would you go, a general merchandise store or a designer boutique? Unless you plan to buy imitation designer perfume, my guess is the latter. The same thing applies to men. Although it may seem like too much effort, you have better chances of meeting the man of your dreams when you look in the right places. If you want a sensitive artist/musician who has an interest in cuisine, look around at music lounges or even cooking classes, and not in a rowdy dance club.
Pursue Your Interests
Pursuing your interests will not only make you happier and content, but the very picture of your satisfaction will increase your attractiveness. This also has the added benefit of increasing the odds of meeting a great guy who actually shares a common interest with you.
Keep Your Feet on the Ground
Although everyone likes to dream of meeting a man who fulfills your every expectation, you need to be realistic. To gain some perspective, take a look at how “perfect” you can be. I’m not telling you to belittle yourself, but rather, be less discriminating. Instead of looking for the entire package, make a list of qualities you cannot absolutely live without. Who knows, the ideal guy may be right in front of you.