How on earth will you know you’ve met Mr. Right, how will you know if he is for keeps or marriage material? The truth is there is no right or wrong answer, do you know why?
Because we are all different. What suits you may not suit me, the trick is to find the guy who best fits your personality needs and traits of you soul mate. Easier said than done, how do you go about finding if he is the best fit for you.
Think for a minute, what does he look like, does he have a sense of humor, is he settled in life, what you know about his profession, see where I am going with this. If you don’t know what he looks like, acts like, talks like, etc, you wouldn’t know if he is good for you right?
Here is an easy solution, simple but highly effective, it paves the way for better bonding, starting your relationship with the right person, avoid resentments down the lane because you know what you are getting into in the first place. So here we go.
Make a simple list, you heard me, make a simple list of what you are looking for, do I hear you say, oh not another list, I had enough of lists. Sing along with me and I can assure you that you will get a head start in picking the right guy.
Many women have trouble finding the right man because they haven’t nailed down exactly what it is that they are looking for in a man. Every woman knows the “types” of things that she is looking for in “Mr. Right”, whether it’s conscious or subconscious thinking.
You’re probably thinking, “Why do I have to take the time to sit down and physically write out what a man must have before looking for him? What a waste of time!”
Well, there are actually a handful of benefits when it comes to writing down your “must-haves” in a man.
First off, by having your list handy, you will be able to immediately determine if a man “passes” the list. If he doesn’t, you can kindly “pass” on the opportunity and save yourself a lot of time and heartache that you may have wasted on the relationship.
Secondly, physically listing what you’re looking for in a man will help you determine what exactly it is that you ARE looking for. A lot of women think they know what they want, but often times it’s not what they need for a healthy, fulfilling relationship!
Take the time write it down and you will thank me for it later. So here we go.
Create a Must Have List: This is your absolute must have’s, if the guy doesn’t tick these boxes there is no point in going ahead. Think of a “must-have” list as having “goals” for what you’d want in your companion. It’s important to write down your “must-haves” regarding what you are looking for in a man before you even attempt to go out and find him. This list might include things like
What you might be willing to tolerate for in the right man. After all, no man is perfect, despite what you are lead to believe in movies.
- He should have a good sense of humor
- Will be polite
- Will be educated
- Will be confident in himself, but not egotistical.
- Will be good at heart
- I will be attracted to him
- I can trust him
- Is easy to talk to?
- I like should like the way he treats other women
- Will be responsible with money
This is just a starter list, you can go on as much as you like, the more you know about what you are looking for the better.
Could have List : This is the nice to have list, its not an absolute must but it will be good to have these qualities. Bear in mind that personal preference is the key here.
- He should be rich
- Should not be bald (could actually go in the must have list!)
- Will have a good spiritual connection, but not enough to make me think he may want to be a priest.
- Will love wine
- Will not try to teach me when I didn’t ask to be taught.
- Will not live across the country.
Cannot have List : This is the list for those attributes that are simply unacceptable for her to consider in a long term relationship.
- will not watch ESPN endlessly.
- will not be vain.
- will not snore…much.
- will not make me feel dumb or childish.
- will not have a fixation with his ex
- won’t have an extensive and publicly known porn collection.
Writing a list of the “must-haves” in regards to finding “Mr. Right” will prevent you from wasting time on men that aren’t right for you and help you determine what it is that you are looking for in a man!
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